There is so much significance that needs to be placed on being with someone who can either instinctively meet your needs, or who places importance on the things you need even if they aren't needs for themselves.
I have talked with several men who bemoan their own breakups, wondering how they, the "good guy" could have been dumped so heartlessly. Are they really a "good guy?" Or are they just giving themselves the title so they can fuel their victim fire?
Wow! I can't believe that this is my 100th official blog post! It's crazy to think that almost 2 years ago I sent my first thoughts out into the interwebs, and now here I am with over 100 official follows who are complete strangers (along with friends and family who just like my Facebook page)... Continue Reading →
Do we have one person who we meet and then *POOF* we magically know within a day or week or month that we belong together?
There are times where we feel like we hit the jackpot because we are receiving some of our superficial WANTS, but I believe that there are times in those situations when we can overlook the fact that we are lacking severely in what we NEED.
Love is an amazing emotion, stronger than any other that exists. When it is given freely and felt authentically, it truly does not have conditions, and it accepts and forgives and embraces and is the most wonderful feeling in the world.
However, no matter how amazing this emotion is, the vessel that houses it cannot keep producing it without being refueled, somehow, in return. This is why there needs to be conditions on relationships.
I was thinking back on the many different conversations that I've had with the various men that I've dated or simply talked to in passing. One of the things I was remembering recently was how one guy had said that he wouldn't want his girlfriend talking to her friends about the relationship at at all. ... Continue Reading →
I'm realizing that I need to accept people for who they are and let them react to things in the way that they're going to react and (this is key) BE OK WITH THEIR REACTION. Above all, I need to assume that people have positive motivations, not negative (until PROVEN incorrect).
Something I've been giving a lot of thought to lately is KNOWING. Specifically, when do you know you've found the right person? This subject is of particular interest to me because a) I've been dating someone for a couple of months now (which means they've made it past the first 3 dates, a feat few... Continue Reading →