We don't need people to encourage us to keep curling the 5 lb weights that obviously are a better fit for the tiny 80 year old woman in Silver Sneakers class. We need people who are going to yell in our face as we struggle to put up the 20 lb shoulder press, and encourage you to go for that last rep before our arms fall, exhausted, but our pride swells, elated.
When you admire someone, you naturally want them to think highly of you. And as the saying goes, imitation is the highest form of flattery. But the thing is, if you are truly admiring the right people, they will want you to become the best version of yourself, not the second-best version of them.
Communication is the lifeblood of any relationship. This includes communicating the good AND the bad. If you only communicate the positive and sweep the negative under the rug, this is like living on a diet of sugar; it's delicious, but not life-sustaining. However, if you only focus on the bad and leave out the good, that's akin to being on starvation rations; eventually, that relationship will look as bad as a wanna-be Instagram model.