Rather than believing that our core is horrible and we must cover it up with Godly goodness taken from outside of ourselves, I believe that our core is actually pure and sweet and infinitely divine, and we must look inward to wash off the layers of worldly grime in order to restore ourselves to our true glory.
Do we have one person who we meet and then *POOF* we magically know within a day or week or month that we belong together?
There are times where we feel like we hit the jackpot because we are receiving some of our superficial WANTS, but I believe that there are times in those situations when we can overlook the fact that we are lacking severely in what we NEED.
Love is an amazing emotion, stronger than any other that exists. When it is given freely and felt authentically, it truly does not have conditions, and it accepts and forgives and embraces and is the most wonderful feeling in the world.
However, no matter how amazing this emotion is, the vessel that houses it cannot keep producing it without being refueled, somehow, in return. This is why there needs to be conditions on relationships.
I'm realizing that I need to accept people for who they are and let them react to things in the way that they're going to react and (this is key) BE OK WITH THEIR REACTION. Above all, I need to assume that people have positive motivations, not negative (until PROVEN incorrect).
Something I've been giving a lot of thought to lately is KNOWING. Specifically, when do you know you've found the right person? This subject is of particular interest to me because a) I've been dating someone for a couple of months now (which means they've made it past the first 3 dates, a feat few... Continue Reading →
With all this thirst for knowledge, there comes a point where I have to admit to myself that I may NEVER know. I may never know where we came from or who or what made us or why we are REALLY here. Yet this does not give me an excuse to forgo my own answer to the second question: why are we here?
Robert Frost tells us that the road less traveled makes all the difference. So many people nod sagely at the Greats when they tell us to be daring, be bold, seize the day! Yet when it comes to actually doing so, throats are cleared, feet shift uncomfortably, and no one actually makes a move.
We all have those friends that we see from time to time, and every encounter is filled with laughter and fun memories. However, those aren't the moments when friendships are made strong. I have people that I could hang out with thousands of times who I would feel as close to day 40 as I did day 1. Epic memories are great, but it's those small, fleeting moments of interaction where your guard begins to fall where true friendship is forged.
Online dating has made us hyper critical of everyone else while simultaneously complaining that we can't find a man or woman who loves us for who we really are. We are quick to dismiss people we may actually be quite compatible with simply because they don't fit what we have envisioned for ourselves or because we fear what other people might think or say.