If you're ever tempted to hold back or shy away from an opportunity or just stay in the status quo simply because of what you're afraid might happen, take a moment to give yourself a pep talk. We only live life once, and there may not be a second chance to face your fears.
Robert Frost tells us that the road less traveled makes all the difference. So many people nod sagely at the Greats when they tell us to be daring, be bold, seize the day! Yet when it comes to actually doing so, throats are cleared, feet shift uncomfortably, and no one actually makes a move.
Lately I've been perusing the endless possibilities of Bumble. I've been on several dates, none of which (obviously) have manifested into the love of my life, but they've mostly all been interesting albeit a let down when it doesn't move forward, especially because I actually enjoy meeting random people and hearing their perspective on life.... Continue Reading →
When we beat ourselves up for every little failure, we can hardly even enjoy the victories we do have because we are focusing on how far we still have to go rather than how far we've come. I am in no way saying that we should settle into a life of contentment with average and pat ourselves on the back for every mundane "accomplishment". However, there is sometimes something to be said for making the journey towards your goal the focus rather than the shining, ever-so-far-away end target.
Humans are the largest paradox on earth because there is nothing so incredibly strong yet so softly fragile as the human spirit. If there is any glimpse of light in this situation, its that it caused so many people to hold their loved ones a little tighter, hug a little longer, and love a little deeper than before.
If you focus on how your needs are being filled rather than how your wants are left lacking, you can find a whole other level of peace and contentment that will permeate your life and eventually lead to your wants becoming subtly sated. So many times we fixate on how our wants are being supposedly ignored, and we can allow ourselves to totally torpedo how our needs are being amazingly fulfilled.
The problem does not come when we make the mistake. The problem comes when we refuse to acknowledge that mistake and therefore deny ourselves the opportunity to ruminate on it, examine it, dissect it for the valuable information that it holds.
If your feed is filled with people who are constantly hustling and improving themselves, you cannot help but feel obligated to catch up. If your feed is filled with memes glorifying laziness and constant partying, you will feel pretty great about where you're sitting and feel completely unmotivated to change.
Sometimes, we may look at someone and feel like they have their shit 100% together and they don't struggle with anything because they are always following through with what they set out to do. Nothing could be further from the truth. There are some days where I go to the gym and my ENTIRE BRAIN is screaming at me to turn around and hightail it back home. Hell, even tonight I didn't want to write a blog post, but because I try to post every Tuesday and Saturday (barring anything unforeseen), I opened my laptop and started typing.
We all have those friends that we see from time to time, and every encounter is filled with laughter and fun memories. However, those aren't the moments when friendships are made strong. I have people that I could hang out with thousands of times who I would feel as close to day 40 as I did day 1. Epic memories are great, but it's those small, fleeting moments of interaction where your guard begins to fall where true friendship is forged.