Robert Frost tells us that the road less traveled makes all the difference. So many people nod sagely at the Greats when they tell us to be daring, be bold, seize the day! Yet when it comes to actually doing so, throats are cleared, feet shift uncomfortably, and no one actually makes a move.
Lately I've been perusing the endless possibilities of Bumble. I've been on several dates, none of which (obviously) have manifested into the love of my life, but they've mostly all been interesting albeit a let down when it doesn't move forward, especially because I actually enjoy meeting random people and hearing their perspective on life.... Continue Reading →
Online dating has made us hyper critical of everyone else while simultaneously complaining that we can't find a man or woman who loves us for who we really are. We are quick to dismiss people we may actually be quite compatible with simply because they don't fit what we have envisioned for ourselves or because we fear what other people might think or say.
The standards for dating, in my eyes, have been playing a game of limbo for years: how low can you go? How low can you go? And yet when you try to stick to a higher principle, it can seem discouraging because that immediately shrinks the eligible bachelor pool down to 1.5 men in a 100 mile radius. Yet I have decided that when I am ready for another go-around on the roller-coaster of romance, I will not settle for less than I deserve.
While reaching the Goldilocks sweet spot can be tough, it is the attitude that wins the offer letter AND the 2 second text response.
Something that has been on my mind a lot lately is how to know when you are expecting too much versus how to realize when you are compromising your standards. I feel that in the modern world of the internet, people tend to view the extravagant things that they see on social media as acceptable/common... Continue Reading →
Today I came to the realization that optimization is hard. The desire to make every aspect of your life as amazing as possible is not hard to ignite, but taking the actual steps to do so? Brutal. I've come to this realization because of the conversation I had this morning with the guy I've been... Continue Reading →